Mindset Shifts

Have you ever heard that term blessed in the mess, or you are a hot mess? Our lives can be the complete definition of disaster. We can have no control over anything. Our house can be a mess. Our lives can be a mess. Our families can be a mess, and so can our relationships.

We will all experience a time when we are going through something where everything seems to be too hard, too much, just overwhelming. If you are here reading my blog, some of us tend to focus on this state of chaos, but we must remember this is only a state of mind. If you are one of the lucky few who have overcome this, AMAZING! For the rest of us who are either at the beginning stages of shifting our mindset or realize it is a constant work in progress, please continue reading!

Instead of dwelling in a situation where everything is just a too much, we have the power and ability to adjust how we look at life. By changing our perspective, we shift our minds to positive and beneficial thought processes instead of dwelling. The mess in the house can be rephrased to "I'm thankful that I have a house," "I'm grateful that I have the contents in my house that need to be picked up, "I am thankful to have food to cook, even though I may not feel like cooking." At least we have the means to have food on the table. Once we get the shift in our mindset out of the negative, we can start creating something to help get our lives back on track.

Then, we can move on to the solution phase. If our house is a mess, and we can afford it, we can hire a house cleaner or ask a friend or family member for help to get things back on track. If you are struggling with meals for your family, ask for help or take some time to meal prep to have easy meals prepared and ready to be served.

In my case, it wasn't that I didn't have the help; I was just too proud or too independent or stubborn to actually ask for the help that I needed. When we were in the trenches of the past couple of years, I needed to let all these misconceptions go and just ask for help. If I could go back today, I would 100% have asked for more help and found a balance, but still writing this today, it is hard to admit that I needed help. It's just not my personality. I'm a go-getter who can handle anything attitude; don't tell me I can't do something type of person. We all need help in some way, shape, or form. I needed help in my everyday life to help my family get through the obstacles that they were going through. I need to focus my energy I did have and focus that on taking care of them and taking care of myself instead of trying to do every single thing by myself.

The whole goal is to work on that mental shift within ourselves, whether it's the words that we're saying or the thoughts that we're thinking. It's creating that mental shift to better deal with our situations because we can't change them, but we don't have to be completely miserable the entire time we're going through a hard time. We have the power to take control of our situations, and sometimes, we just have to start with the simple tasks and then graduate to the more demanding, more intricate challenges.

Comment below if you are ready to take control of your circumstances and want to start taking steps to shift your mindset to be productive instead of stealing your joy and energy!